Selfish

Yesterday I was given a very clear message: People pleasers are terrified of being called selfish. As I reflected on this, it became very clear that my life as my younger self was run by the fear that someone would call or see me as selfish.

So I would behave in all sorts of ways to not be given this title...

Buying friends dinner
Going out of my way to do things for others
Not express certain things
Tell martyr stories about myself
Judge others who were being selfish

And yet, I was living out of fear and living someone else’s life. Fear that I would somehow be caught out and judged for being the very thing I was running away from.

Living Contorted, Unauthentically

Paying the price of fatigue and depression. It was no way to live and yet I had no idea that any of this was going on as I was at STAGE 1 of the people-pleasing journey. I was living a SHACKLED LIFE.

Are you a people pleaser?

The Journey to Being True to Yourself

At the time, I had no idea that I had no control over what people thought of me. I didn’t understand that what selfish means to each person is different. Ironically, people-pleasing by its very nature IS selfish—always worrying about ME, ME, ME. This way of living gave me no room to LOVE neither myself nor anyone else.

I now see SELFISH as something to embrace. In fact, it can be very healthy if it’s aligned. I call this ALIGNED SELFISHNESS, where you do and say things for you as it's right and in the highest interest of all.

Self Authenticity: The Key to Overcoming Fear

The fear of being labeled as selfish often prevents people from living authentically. By prioritizing self-authenticity, you begin to express your true thoughts and feelings without the fear of judgment. This process might seem daunting at first, but it is the foundation of becoming your authentic self. When you live authentically, you allow yourself to set boundaries, express your desires, and live in alignment with your true self.

EXAMPLES

Expressing your boundaries
Expressing your desires
Expressing your vulnerable side
Expressing your LOVE and appreciation
Doing things for you and your wellbeing

Personal Empowerment Through Aligned Selfishness

This way of living is true sovereignty... Doing what is right by you for the good of all allows us to live an UnShackled Life where LOVE and TRUTH are the order of the day, while we create more of what we want.

If you are tired of living a shackled life where you run away from SELFISH and

contort,
fear, and worry about what others will think,
chase after others so they will still keep liking you
constantly feel guilty,

Then it's time to embrace ALIGNED SELFISHNESS.

Finding Your Real Self in a World of Expectations

In a society that often demands conformity, finding your real self can be challenging. People pleasers, in particular, may struggle with this as they constantly adapt to meet others' expectations. However, the journey to finding your real self begins with letting go of the need to please others and embracing who you truly are. This journey is essential for living an unshackled life where you are free to express yourself authentically.

The Importance of Setting Self-Care Boundaries

Setting self-care boundaries is vital for anyone on the path to self-authenticity. Boundaries allow you to protect your energy and focus on what truly matters to you.

If you want to embrace ALIGNED SELFISHNESS, then click here and email me with aligned selfishness in the title and I will send you something special

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