What Is Your Financial Truth?
My Financial Truth: Every woman should be financially independent
As a woman who is financially independent, I have never sought refuge in financial provision from my intimate relationships. Nevertheless, money became an amplifier for my rescuing tendencies.
It was simple: I would seek and attract men into my life that I could look after and rescue. And no better way to do it than with money.
Financial Independence for Women
The importance of financial independence in women's life cannot be overstated. “If I rescue you, you won’t leave as you will appreciate me for my efforts.” WRONG. In fact, being in the rescuer-rescue me dynamic just created more dysfunction, especially as the masculine was the one being rescued. What I didn’t understand at the time was that I was unconsciously saying, “I don’t trust that you can sort this out on your own.” “You are not okay as you are.”
Rescuing in Relationships Dynamic
A mother/little boy dynamic ensued. This mother/little boy dynamic can be deeply emasculating for him and deeply unnerving for her. She has to hold it all and somehow feels that it’s her responsibility to make it all work. If she doesn’t carry on like this, it will all fall apart. She feels like she hasn’t got anywhere to land, to soften, to lay back and relax. Cutting off her pipeline of receptivity. Tension sets in and resentment flourishes. Sexual attraction diminishes and the breakdown unfolds.
Breaking Free from the Rescuing Tendency
A woman should be financially independent to avoid dysfunctional dynamics in the relationship. However, it looked to me that my financial truth was to rescue to be appreciated, but over time I realized that it didn’t work. I wanted to be in a relationship with a man who I didn’t need to rescue nor fix financially. I wanted to create a dynamic where we both contributed and worked as a team. I wanted to be with a man who had his financial house in order as I wanted to feel held and supported.
Embracing Your Financial Truth
And just like that, it came to be. But of course, it wasn’t just like that - it’s been a journey. This is what I would love for every woman:
An opportunity to move beyond her rescuing and fixing tendencies
to create a dynamic that is truly serving her and the relationship.
To fully embody her financial and emotional truth.
When we own our financial truth, we are able to create it.
Finding Your Financial Truth
If you are curious about what your financial truth is, or recognize yourself as a rescuer and are ready to create a relationship where you feel held, provided for (whatever that is for you), and allow yourself to receive, then the Unshackled Abundance Circle will be perfect for you. Click on the link below to find out more.
Every woman should consider learning about being financially independent to create a fulfilling and balanced life, free from the constraints of the rescuer role.
