Before coming to Marina, I was really struggling in my new relationship, feeling insecure about myself and this busy entrepreneur I so suddenly fell in love with. In only one session with Marina I got a total different perspective about this relationship, in fact relationships in general and what a perfect match we were. We are now engaged to be married and am super thrilled that the relationship went from struggle to effortlessness. If you want to transform difficult relationships into ones that seem effortless, then please go to Your Pathway To Love. It will change the way you feel about falling in love and most importantly about the art of staying in LOVE.
Annik Rau, Founder of Pony Express
I met Marina briefly at an event and during our brief conversation I had a light-bulb moment thanks to Marina’s ability to get you to seek your own answers. Following this, we agreed to have a one-to-one. Marina quickly put me at ease and in a brief time had me drawing on my inner resources and wisdom to see past some challenges. Marina asked insightful questions which got me thinking – during the conversation and since. Marina then ensured that I had some additional resources to help me work through things going forward, but always made sure that the real learning came from an internal place rather than from her. I look forward to working with Marina in the future to ensure that my introduction into ‘thinking in the moment’ and living through my ‘inner wisdom’ is embedded and long-lasting.
Denise, Image Consultant, UK
I’ve been working closely with Marina Pearson for nearly two years. In that time, it’s been a joy to watch her life transform from stress and struggle to ease and effortlessness. This is one of the most essential qualities in a coach; she 'walks her talk', deeply embodying what she shares and coaches. Marina brings a rare quality of depth, connection and insight to her coaching, and facilitates profound and transformative experiences for her clients. Marina doesn’t just teach effortless living; she actually lives it. That’s what makes her uniquely qualified to create transformational experiences for others.
Jamie Smart, Coach and author of the international bestseller CLARITY: Clear Mind, Better Performance, Bigger Results
I have known Marina for years, and have worked with her closely also. She has a real gift of knowing what question to ask in the right moment to shift you from anxiety, overwhelm and fear into peace and a real sense of freedom. Marina has a natural innate talent and anyone working with Marina, is truly lucky as she really wants the best for her clients and she really is the real deal. Thank you Marina
Rosanne Ainslie, Founder of XtraHand
If you find yourself in a difficult relationship with someone, or find yourself getting into difficult intimate relationships then the following keys to create effortless relationships will really help:
1) To know that no-one can make you feel anything: What I mean by this is that your hurt or sense of frustration that you think may come from that persons behaviour now or in the past can only come from one place and one place only. Your thinking in that given moment. It cannot come from their behaviour no matter how “mean” or “abusive” it may be or may have been.
Now I know that it may look that way but it cannot work that way at all. It can only work one way and one way only. From the inside. From the nature of thought taking form in that moment. By the time you think their behaviour has affected you, it’s already wrapped up in thought both conscious and unconscious. And I am not talking about the content of your thoughts, but more your state of mind – your mood.
Now for those of you who are thinking – well really? The answer is yes, suffice to say that if it wasn’t like this then everybody would react in the same way. I was asked the other day, but what of people who abuse others. Surely their feelings of hurt must come from what the abuser has done. And although it may seem that’s the case, it isn’t – otherwise everyone that has been through that experience would experience it in the same way. Some let it go on for years, whereas others wouldn’t stand for it at all.
So what if that person doesn’t want to speak to you anymore? Well in that case – you will need to make peace with your situation and how it stands. But if you can see that your happiness and well-being doesn’t depend on them opening up or them coming back to you, then you are free to okay no matter what the situation is.
MISTAKE I SEE PEOPLE MAKE IS thinking that their hurt, anger and frustration is coming from what the other person has done or is doing but it really doesn’t work that way.
Some of the implications of understanding this are
You blame the other person for what they have done or are doing
You feel insecure around them and may not speak out
You avoid connection, even though you crave it for fear of being hurt again
You fear and sabotage relationships by leaving first believing that relationships are too painful
You will seek validation from outside of you thinking that’s what you want
2) Realise that you are not responsible for how someone else thinks: Which leads me onto the next point. What if you were to see that you are not responsible for how someone else thinks? And by thinking I mean feels. As thought and feeling are part of the same coin.
You can put two people in the same situation and they will not have the same response. We all live in our own thought felt realities. IE – we think differently from one another depending on our background, history and upbringing. So it would suggest again that your behaviour is not the cause of their hurt or anger or even frustration.
Now this is not to say, that that person is not hurting – but if you could see that they too are innocently caught up in the misunderstanding of what is creating their experience, then it will be easier for you to let go of the guilt.
The mistake I see is that they think they are responsible for how someone feels and so therefore carry the guilt around for years, regret for years that clouds who you really are – this in turn has people stay in relationships for years as they fear hurting the other person – or makes people go back because they want to appease the other person. This is especially true if you have children. I know a lot of mums who suffer mummy guilt and this understanding can liberate them from that.
Some of the IMPLICATIONS of thinking you are responsible for how someone feels are
You carry guilt with you
You may well find yourself appeasing them or feeling that you owe them something so act in that way
You keep going back to that person to make everything better
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