The Challenges and Impact of Being a People Pleaser in Relationships

Living with Reactivity

Do you live with reactivity? I know; I used to. To some extent, we all do. We all have the capacity to react, defend, and blame. It's part of the human experience. 

People pleasers with this dominant archetype are often the ones who don’t express themselves over time, causing their system to feel like a pressure cooker that eventually explodes. This reactivity can lead to negative outcomes, particularly in intimate relationships.

The Impact of Being a People Pleaser in Relationships

Being a people pleaser in an intimate relationship can be challenging. When you constantly suppress your feelings and need to please him, 

• It repels good men and attracts immature relationships

• Pushes away intimacy and understanding

• Creates drama

• Creates lots of bad feeling

• Fuels an environment of entitlement and fear

It's compelling to think that this way of being is the definition of vulnerability and yet it's totally the opposite.

Breaking the Cycle of People Pleasing

Blaming and shaming never work; they are dead-end streets that lead nowhere. I have walked down that street all too often. Instead, people pleasers need to learn 

• Calm their nervous system by taking a breathe, going for a walk

• Express in a loving and playful way

• Express how they are feeling a little day by day so they don't explode

• LOVE their inner child through these moments

• Seek support to integrate and shift their relationship to vulnerable expression.

I know this one can bring up a lot of shame and remorse...and yet

Embracing Change and Finding Support

If you see yourself in this description, it's okay. There is a way out. By acknowledging your dominant archetype and its impact on your relationships, you can start to make positive changes. Embrace self-expression, seek supportive relationships, and create a healthy environment for vulnerability.

Schedule your initial illumination call now and take the first step towards transforming your relationships with men and embracing a healthier, more expressive you.