People Pleasing Archetype 1 And The Shadow Empath

Understanding the Shadow Empath and People Pleasing Archetype 1 

Living as a shadow empath often means being the person who always listens, always understands, and always puts others first. This people-pleasing archetype, though it may seem compassionate, can be incredibly detrimental to your emotional wellbeing. I’ve lived this reality, thinking that by being the understanding one, the loving one, and the one who always says, "Don’t worry, I’ve got your back," I was creating connections that would last. But in truth, I was sacrificing my own needs and happiness.

People pleasing as a shadow empath attracts individuals who need constant emotional support. 

The Cost of People Pleasing

This had implications...

• Attracting men who had a lot of drama in their lives, that would need a shoulder to cry on.

• Attracting men who couldn't be there for me emotionally so my needs weren't met.

• Drama and lots of turbulence

This people-pleasing behavior creates a dynamic that can leave you feeling drained, as your own emotional needs remain unmet. It creates a cycle of turbulence, where you find yourself in relationships where your kindness is taken for granted, and your own wellbeing is compromised.

Breaking Free of Shadow Empath for Emotional Wellbeing

It’s important to recognize that you can be empathetic and loving without losing yourself in the process. For a long time, I believed that if I continued to be the understanding one, they would need me enough to never leave. But instead, all this did was have me put up with behaviours and ways of being that actually were detrimental to me.

Instead of letting the person know how their behaviour affected me, I would share how I truly felt with others, and not the person that needed to hear It, out of fear of confrontation and being left. What I hadn't realized, which I very much needed to, was that I could be loved without putting up with behaviors that were dishonoring to me.

Embracing Healthy Boundaries and Overcoming People Pleasing

You don’t have to lose your empathy to protect your emotional wellbeing. It’s possible to set healthy boundaries that honor both your compassionate nature and your own needs. 

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