Narcissistic Relationship: "All the Good Guys Are Taken"
Have you ever caught yourself saying, "All the good ones are taken"? I hear this over and over, but it’s simply not true. I used to believe it too, and it seemed to validate my fears. However, this belief is a misunderstanding that can actually stop you from finding a meaningful relationship.
The Truth Behind Relationship Myths: Narcissistic Relationship
You have either dated or been in relationships that have turned out to be a nightmare and then look to this logical explanation.
Often, women use the excuse that all the good guys are taken as a way to explain their disappointing relationships. But what if there’s another reason? The truth is, attracting a good guy involves more than just wishing for one to come along. It requires personal growth and self-awareness. By challenging this myth, you can start to see the potential for a fulfilling relationship.
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Relationships
During my people-pleasing days, I found myself in emotionally draining relationships with narcissistic individuals. These men were emotionally unavailable and self-absorbed, which made sense at the time due to my lack of emotional boundaries. I failed to recognize the red flags early on, as I was more concerned with avoiding abandonment than assessing the relationship's health.
Identifying Red Flags and Setting Emotional Boundaries
They became my world in no time.
As I
Had no boundaries
Was so understanding about their angry outbursts
Was blinded by their potential VS Who was sitting in front of me
Was more interested in rescuing them than being cared for
It makes sense that I would attract men that would fit this dynamic and repell men that wouldnt (the good guys)
It’s essential to develop emotional boundaries. Recognize the red flags in a relationship, such as love bombing and lack of respect for your needs.
Overcoming Insecure Attachments and Developing Healthy Relationships
To attract a good guy, you need to
Work through any insecure attachments
Get clear on what is aligned or not for you and express that.
Discover what your needs, desires and wants are and express them.
Lean into life and establish deep friendships.
Look for the red flags right from the outset and honour yourself enough to walk away.
Go out with a number of men before becoming exclusive.
The Transformation: From Insecure to Empowered
As I worked on improving my self-awareness and emotional boundaries, I noticed a shift in my energy.
The outcome?
As It turns out not all the good guys were taken.
By focusing on personal growth and being clear about my relationship intent, I was able to find someone who truly fits. This transformation highlighted the importance of addressing my own attachment styles and relationship patterns.
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