To Pay or Not to Pay: That is the Question…

The Debate on First Date Payments 

Something that’s been on my mind is the whole debate about provision and who pays or takes on the financial role in the relationship. In most polarity circles, it’s made very clear that the man needs to provide and pay for dates, dinners, and so on. This brings us to the question: first date who pays?

Exploring the Norms: Who Should Pay on a First Date? 

While energetically, I see that male provision is a wonderful thing to experience, and I understand that this way of seeing it is setting the feminine up to win, so to speak, I don’t fully buy into it. There are many ways to provide that aren’t just financial, right? It’s worth considering: who should pay for a first date?

Financial Independence for Women: A New Perspective 

What I find even funnier is that in some cases, the women teaching this are financially successful and are not necessarily living into this dynamic. So not only does it seem hypocritical, but it also seems very prescriptive. In today's world, financial independence for women is a reality, and I believe that we  should be financially independent and savvy. 

The Impact of Traditional Roles 

I believe that women working with rules like this create more harm than good because they ignore their wisdom and become hypnotized by the guidance given. This may be helpful for a select few, while not all that for the rest. After 18 years of being involved in my own work and working with others, what I have realized is that giving someone the space to explore their own Truth on any matter, let alone what works for them in a relationship, is like balm for their soul.

A Unique Space for Women 

This is why I created this unique space for women who overgive financially and emotionally to explore whether it’s aligned or whether they do it because they are unconsciously searching for the appreciation “out there”. Women and financial independence should be a choice, not a prescribed role. I go into more detail about the cost of the latter - and will expand more about this in future posts.

Conclusion: Embrace Your Truth 

Exploring who should pay on a first date and understanding financial roles can help you find what aligns best with your personal beliefs and relationship dynamics. If you are curious about The Unshackled Abundance Circle, click on the link below and book your exploration call.